Quality Over Quantity An essay on relationships Justin Hartfield
“It is quality rather than quantity that matters.” - Seneca (5 BC - 65 AD)
Quality over quantity, always. This is the PI maxim. This principle applies to all aspects of life, including philosophy, economics, entertainment, nutrition, technology, sports, work - everything. Quality first, quantity second. Buffet or five-star restaurant? 100 old Intel 386 PCs or one new MacBook Pro? Owning ten small urban apartments or one beach-side estate? Ten beaters or one brand new car? Writing twenty average novels or one Pulitzer Prize? Ad infinitum.
This rule applies even in relationships. A man who's had an extraordinary amount of lovers does not impress me. A man who’s lovers have all been extraordinary, however, now that is an impressive feat indeed. Unfortunately, it is common in present day society to put in high regard a man who has slept with an inordinate amount of women. He is often admired by his male peers as a “pimp.” Interestingly enough this term had extremely negative connotations just forty years prior.
However, this is not a mark of a man’s ultimate masculinity. A man does not spend his hours bedding hundreds of random girls for the sake of sexual gratification. That is the mark of a lost person, a broken soul, someone desperately trying to fill the emptiness in their lives through copulation. Ironically, the more females they ravage the more meaningless their partners become, and thus sex is reduced to mechanics. Pump, suck, squirt, repeat. The emotional aspect is completely detached and the cycle to find a different more sexually gratifying partner begins again, literally seconds after the act is complete. The ‘pimp’ can never fulfill his emotional needs through another because intimacy is never established. The female “host” provides only cheap and fleeting eroticism- e.g. masturbation. The ‘pimp's’ existence, although abound with intercourse and temporary spouts of exultation, is loveless and thus without greater meaning.
There are couples that rush to have sex, maybe the first date or even the very same night they meet. Sometimes the connection that is established prior to sex between the two people is so great that the only natural thing left to do is have sex. To be clear this is not always a bad thing, and on occasion, it is only logical the relationship progresses in this expedited way.
Most of the time however, it is better not to rush into a physical relationship. Rushing into a physical relationship can confuse people, mostly the female. It confuses the girl into thinking that there may be more to the relationship than just sex. Oftentimes the girl is left disappointed when she realizes, in some cases months or even years later, that their emotions got better of their rational judgement. She feels betrayed by her partner, when in essence it was fault of both parties rushing into the bedroom. When it comes to matters of life and love protect your heart, for it is fragile and does not come with a spare. It is that reason why only girls that are interested in me for reasons beyond the superficial see my romantic moves (and same rules apply for me). My heart must be protected first.
Quality females are keenly aware of this as well, thankfully. They are looking for a lasting relationship with a quality member of the opposite sex as well. While there are many examples of a quality female, they all share certain common traits. They must be physically appealing to their partner. They also must highlight the best in their mate and in tandem negate the worst. Lastly, the must have high standards in which they choose their sexual partners. They absolutely refuse to put up with substandard behavior from their significant other. These type of uncompromising females are difficult to find. Sadly, many people are apt to settle in a relationship of convenience, rather than of mutual respect and love. I urge you not to fall into the trap of the masses and instead find a partner which will only accept your best self- and nothing less.
